2015-the year of digging deeper

I resolve to_________. It's that time of year again when people make New Year's resolutions. Some folks keep theirs and others don't. Me, well, I don't even make them. Yet, maybe I should. Maybe we all should. However instead of resolving to eat healthier or save money, perhaps, there is something more worthwhile that we should make a resolution about. Diamond Rio has a song called "Love a Little Stronger" and it will be the focus of my New Year's resolution. Here are the lyrics:

"Love A Little Stronger"

I don't leave any room for doubt
When it comes to you and me
You know all about the way I feel inside
You know how hard I try
But that don't mean that I can't

Love a little stronger, dig a little deeper
Go a little farther, anything to please you girl
Tonight I'm gonna start all over
Show you girl what's in my heart
Ooh, ooh, ooh, gonna love a little stronger

You tell me you're the lucky one
But I see things differently
I have just begun to show you that you mean
Everything to me
I still feel the need to

Love a little stronger, dig a little deeper
Go a little farther, anything to please you girl
Tonight I'm gonna start all over
Show you girl what's in my heart
Ooh, ooh, ooh, gonna love a little stronger

Love a little stronger, dig a little deeper
Go a little farther, anything to please you girl
Tonight I'm gonna start all over
Show you girl what's in my heart
Ooh, ooh, ooh, gonna love a little stronger

Love a little stronger, dig a little deeper
Go a little farther, anything to please you girl
Tonight I'm gonna start all over
Show you girl what's in my heart
Ooh, ooh, ooh, gonna love a little stronger
Gonna love a little stronger
Gonna love a little stronger

Love a little stronger. Dig a little deeper. Those two sentences say it all. For so many people, love is stagnant. We get into our daily routines and, even though we love certain people very much, we sometimes don't "love a little stronger." The good news though is that it is possible to love someone stronger each day, but, as the song so accurately says, it takes some "digging deeper." Do we dig deeper each day to notice things about our loved ones? Do we dig deeper and offer to help our loved ones when they need it, even though we might be tired? Do we dig deeper and take the time to do something spontaneous and special for our loved ones? We could all dig a little deeper, myself included.

Scholars say diamonds are formed about 100 miles below earth's surface and are mined about 800 feet below earth's surface. Diamonds are precious gemstones. Our love for others is also a "gemstone" of sorts and can be uncovered more and more as we "dig a little deeper." So, this year, in 2015, let's make it a point to "dig a little deeper" and "love a little stronger." Let the ones you love know how you feel in your heart. Love a little stronger!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Be in the company of a companion

Two heads are better than one! It takes two to tango! They're two of a kind! They're two peas in a pod! Well, what word or phrase comes to mind when you think of two people, especially two people who are close to one another? For me, the word companionship comes along. From the beginning of time, man has desired companionship. God even said early on in Genesis that it was not good for man to be alone. 

So many times in life, people get lonely and all they really want or need is a companion. Something that I aim to do each and everyday is to be a great companion or friend to all that I come into contact with, especially those whom I love the most.

So, we know what companionship is in a general sense but what does it really encompass? What makes us a companion? Being a companion to me is so much more than being a "friend." The word "company" can almost be found inside the word "companion"-all you're missing is the "y." I really think that is what a companion is-someone who is company to another person-someone who is there at all times and in all kinds of ways.

Reba McEntire has a song called "I'll Be" and I believe it accurately describes what we should all "be" as a companion. Here's the lyrics:

"I'll Be"

When darkness falls upon your heart and soul.
I'll be the light that shines for you.
When you forget how beautiful you are
I'll be there to remind you.
When you can't find your way,
I'll find my way to you.
When troubles come around,
I will come to you.

I'll be your shoulder when you need someone to lean on.
Be your shelter.
When you need someone to see you through.
I'll be there to carry you.
I'll be there.
I'll be the rock that will be strong for you.
The one that will hold on to you.
When you feel that rain falling down.
When there's nobody else around.
I'll be.

And when you're there with no one there to hold.
I'll be the arms that reach for you.
And when you feel your faith is running low.
I'll be there to believe in you.
When all you find are lies.
I'll be the truth you need.
When you need someone to run to .
You can run to me

I'll be your shoulder when you need someone to lean on.
Be your shelter.
When you need someone to see you through.
I'll be there to carry you.
I'll be there.
I'll be the rock that will be strong for you.
The one that will hold on to you.
When you feel that rain falling down.
When there's nobody else around.
I'll be.

I'll be the sun.
When your heart's filled with rain.
I'll be the one.
To chase the rain away.

I'll be your shoulder when you need someone to lean on.
Be your shelter.
When you need someone to see you through.
I'll be there to carry you.
I'll be there.
I'll be the rock that will be strong for you.
The one that will hold on to you.
When you feel that rain falling down.
When there's nobody else around.
I'll be.
I'll be.

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Shoulder, shelter, rock-those are just words used in this song to describe a companion. We should be that shoulder to lean on-that companion. We should be that shelter from life's storms-that companion. We should be that strong rock that stands the tests of time-that companion. Being a companion all comes down to just being there for someone and that's something we all can do. Let's all create an atmosphere where those around us will always "be in the company of a companion."

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man! 

Don't let the river run dry!

Has anyone ever told you to control your emotions? I've sure we've all been told that from time to time. However, is controlling your emotions really a possible task? I don't think it is possible to control your emotions. Therefore I try my best never to tell someone to control their emotions. Actually, I'd do the opposite and encourage people to let their emotions out.

If you stop and think about it, on any given day, each individual experiences a range of emotions. Sadness can change to happiness in an instant. Peace can change to fear in an instant. Nervousness can change to calmness in an instant. Emotions are ever-flowing and it is high time that we let them do just that- flow.

When you think of a river, you think of a body of water that is always flowing. Emotions are like that. There's a Garth Brooks song called "The River" and it talks about dreaming and how a dream is like a river. Here's the song:

"The River"


You know a dream is like a river
Ever changin' as it flows
And a dreamer's just a vessel
That must follow where it goes
Trying to learn from what's behind you
And never knowing what's in store
Makes each day a constant battle
Just to stay between the shores...and

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

Too many times we stand aside
And let the waters slip away
'Til what we put off 'til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don't you sit upon the shoreline
And say you're satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And dare to dance the tide...yes

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

There's bound to be rough waters
And I know I'll take some falls
But with the good Lord as my captain
I can make it through them all...yes

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

Yes, I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
'Til the river runs dry

So, what is this river that the song mentions? Emotions and dreams make up that river and they go hand in hand. Emotions are the current that drives the vessel or the dreams. We can let our emotions drag us downstream or we can use them as a valuable asset. Wait! I sound like I'm contradicting myself, but I'm not. You see, the negative current or the negative emotions we experience in life are there for a reason or perhaps reasons. Maybe those emotions of sadness and hurt will allow you to feel the pain of others sometimes and help them through that pain. Perhaps the emotion of defeat will help you to encourage someone else to be a fighter and not give in.

On the other hand, positive emotions can do the very same thing. Our emotions are there in our lives to make us act, to make us think and to make us reflect. When we use our emotions to do those three things, we have learned to sail our vessel, to sail to our dreams. Are you sailing today? Or are you letting the rough waters drive your ship aground?

This river of life will not run dry as long as you let your emotions flow. Emotions are not a bad thing and, when seen correctly, can be so pivotal in helping your own self and others.

Sail your vessel! Let the emotions flow! And don't let the river run dry!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Ain't no quick fix at the end of a needle...

We live in an era where medical advances seem to be more outstanding with every year. Yet, there is no medical advance that can fix the evil in our world. Therefore, the question arises, what is evil and how do we fix it?

Evil permeates society at all ends. Sometimes it subtle. Sometimes it rears it's ugly head and makes its presence know to all around. Evil can simply be an ill spoken word that should have never been uttered. Evil can also be a drastic and devastating, senseless murder. Yet, evil no matter the size is still evil.

Why does evil exits?

The answer is simple evil exists because people allow it to. So, how do we fix the problem of allowing evil to exist in the world. The answer lies in the lyrics to a Garth Brooks song called "People Loving People."

"People Loving People"

Doctor, you ain't got a clue
For whatever's making this world blue
You can't get forgiveness at the store
And peace, it's a politician's war

You won't find no resolution in the bottom of a bottle
In the stars or Aristotle, the only answer to the problem is…

People loving people
That's the enemy of everything's that's evil
Ain't no quick fix at the end of a needle
It's just people loving people
Whoa, woah, woah, woah

Words aren't what they seem to be
Talk is cheap but lies are free
We fear what we don't understand
We've been scared since time began

All the colors and the cultures circle 'round us on a spindle
It's a complicated riddle, the solution is so simple…

It's people loving people
That's the enemy of everything's that's evil
Ain't no quick fix at the end of a needle
It's just people loving people
Whoa, woah, woah, woah

You can pawn it off on kings and queens and those behind the curtain
Say what can make a difference in a world so full of hurting
But I believe the remedy starts right here with you and me

People loving people
That's the enemy of everything's that's evil
Ain't no quick fix at the end of a needle
It's just people loving people
It's just people loving people
Whoa, woah, woah, woah
Whoa, woah, woah, woah
It's just people loving people

Evil is an ailment to the health and well-being of each individual. Luckily though, there's a cure for evil and it is people loving people. When I first heard this song on the radio, I brushed it off and was half-listening. The tune was catchy though and it stayed in my head. I've been thinking lately of why people just can't love one another and the song, in a weird but right-on-time way, popped back into my mind. I googled the lyrics and here I am.

These lyrics are so true. People want a quick fix to their problems in life, even those problems with their fellow man. When people start loving their fellow man as they should, their problems may not be solved quickly but I guarantee you they will be on a much quicker route.

I see families and friends who argue sometimes. I see politicians and bureaucrats argue too. They over-complicate their problems and point fingers at each other until they can't do it any longer. Then they wander: How do I fix this? The answer is simple: start loving one another!

The truest words in this song, in my humble opinion, are the ones that say, "Say what can make a difference in a world so full of hurting? But I believe the remedy starts with you and me."

Things do start with you and me. Things start with each individual. We can all make a difference in this world in so many ways, but perhaps the easiest way to make a difference is just by loving people. For, when we love people and they love us back, we send evil running away and love here to stay.

Go out and love people. Love all people-even the ones who don't love you back. I've always loved people and made it a point to try my best to see people for who they really are. I don't always accomplish my goal, but I know that the quick fix to evil is not at the end of a needle but in people loving people.

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Walking altruism avenue leads to happy street

Me-a two letter word used too much by society. Altruism- a big word that I've never heard of before. What do the words "me" and "altruism" have in common? The answer to that question is actually quite simple. They have nothing in common.

As I look around at the world today, I often find myself getting disgusted by the amount of attention that people give themselves. Everything seems to be about "me" "me" "me" Yet, if you ask each individual if they considered themselves a selfish or self-centered person, most would say that they aren't. That, in and of itself, is evidence of selfishness.

Altruism is a word that sounds quite complex. However, nothing is complex about it at all. The Merriam Webster dictionary defines altruism as: feelings and behavior that show a desire to help other people and a lack of selfishness. Perhaps though, many people do not even know what altruism is because it is not readily practiced.

As humans in a "me" society, sometimes it is easy to focus only on ourselves. Yet, we must look around and realize the value of others in our lives. I would be absolutely lost if not for the love and care shown to me by others.

I often find myself wrestling with ways in which I can help someone. I've always been this way and I'm thankful for that. I am this way because I know what it is like to experience trials and tribulations in life. I've walked a mile in my own shoes and a few more in the shoes of others.

The world would be a much better place if we all did more walking and less talking. We need to walk that extra mile to help a friend in need. We need to walk that extra mile in order to show someone we love them. We even need to walk that extra mile to show strangers that there is someone who cares.

I'm really not even sure to write what I'm thinking right now, but I know this much: I love people and I love people from all walks of life. I'm not sure all people feel this way and sometimes I find it hard to realize that not all people love those of different walks of life than their own. Yet, I also know that through my love for people of all walks of life I have discovered true happiness. I don't have to lay my head on my pillow at night and regret not trying to help a doctor or a homeless man, because I'm here to help them both.

I have a passion for people. I just can't describe it. Well, maybe I can: I must be walking Altruism Avenue because I'm as close as can be to Happy Street! Come and join me! You'll be on Happy Street before you know it!

No message could have been any clearer!

No message could have been any clearer! What message? The message I'm speaking of is in the one so vividly and appropriately displayed in Michael Jackson's "The Man in the Mirror" If you think about it, the average human looks in the mirror each day at least 3 times if not more. There are mirrors everywhere in our day-to-day travels. They're in our bedrooms, our bathrooms, bathrooms at work and on our cars. We also have emotional "mirrors" in life- moments when we take a look at ourselves and "make that change" if we need it.

So, my question tonight is this: Is a change needed in your life? Do you need to take that look in the mirror?

There are so many things we need to look at when we check out that guy or girl in the mirror. Let's allow the song to show us the way:

"Man In The Mirror"

I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer's Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man's Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya' Know
'Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That's Why I Want You To
Know

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)

I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It's Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They're Not
Alone?

A Widow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody's Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya' See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That's Why I'm Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!)

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Ooh!)
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
(Ooh!)
I'm Asking Him To Change His
Ways
(Change His Ways-Ooh!)
And No Message Could've
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make That . . .)
Change!

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror,
(Man In The Mirror-Oh
Yeah!)
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make The Change)
(You Gotta Get It Right, While
You Got The Time)
('Cause When You Close Your
Heart)
You Can't Close Your . . .Your
Mind!
(Then You Close Your . . .
Mind!)
That Man, That Man, That
Man, That Man
With That Man In The Mirror
(Man In The Mirror, Oh Yeah!)
That Man, That Man, That Man
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
(Better Change!)
You Know . . .That Man
No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself And
Then Make A Change)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Oh Yeah!)
Gonna Feel Real Good Now!
Yeah Yeah! Yeah Yeah!
Yeah Yeah!
Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah
(Ooooh . . .)
Oh No, No No . . .
I'm Gonna Make A Change
It's Gonna Feel Real Good!
Come On!
(Change . . .)
Just Lift Yourself
You Know
You've Got To Stop It.
Yourself!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
I've Got To Make That Change,
Today!
Hoo!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Got To
You Got To Not Let Yourself . . .
Brother . . .
Hoo!
(Yeah!-Make That Change!)
You Know-I've Got To Get
That Man, That Man . . .
(Man In The Mirror)
You've Got To
You've Got To Move! Come
On! Come On!
You Got To . . .
Stand Up! Stand Up!
Stand Up!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Stand Up And Lift
Yourself, Now!
(Man In The Mirror)
Hoo! Hoo! Hoo!
Aaow!
(Yeah-Make That Change)
Gonna Make That Change . . .
Come On!
(Man In The Mirror)
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know It!
You Know . . .
(Change . . .)


Make That Change.

As I listened to this song this week, I came to see one thing in the mirror that I need to change. I'm very fortunate to have people in my life who care deeply for me. Sometimes, as the song states, I become a victim of a selfish kind of love. I allow myself to become engrossed in me and forget about others-maybe not in an extremely forgetful way-but I forget about emotions and feelings when it comes to others.

I try to be unselfish person, but I'm a firm believer that no matter how hard you try to be unselfish, you could always think of yourself a little less.

So, tonight as I listened to this song I have made a commitment to try harder, to make the world a better place and to look at myself and make a change!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Nothing at all that says it all

Sometimes in life, silence arises. For whatever reason, sometimes silence can be golden. Especially in a loving and deep relationship, silence can speak volumes. It's a given fact that couples learn one another's body language and through that body language, love is often displayed. There is an ultimate body language song in Keith Whitley and Allison Kraus's "When You Say Nothing at All" Here is the lyrics:


"When You Say Nothing At All"

It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word you can light up the dark
Try as I may I could never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes sayin' you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

All day long I can hear people talking out loud
But when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd
Old Mr. Webster could never define
What's being said between your heart and mine

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes sayin' you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes sayin' you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best when you say nothing at all

A smile, someone holding you near, truthful eyes and a tender touch are all ways in which we speak volumes, not through our lips, but through our heart. I have learned in my own life that I must cherish the golden moments of silence and learn to know that we really do say things best when we say nothing at all.

Tonight, the measure of a man or woman can sometimes be found in his or her ability to cherish the golden moments of silence and learn how much meaning is in them. Again, sometimes things are said best when we say nothing at all.

That my friends is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man.

Are they a number or a name

Is he a number or a name? Is she a number or a name? Are they a number or a name? Have you ever just taken the time to think about how people treat others? Have you ever take the time to think about how you treat others? Today, I was reminded to always keep in my mind what I think and how I treat others.

As a  child, I aspired to president, governor, an attorney, and a business owner among many different occupations. Rightfully, the occupations I just listed often come with a great deal of respect and reverence. Yet, sometimes we forget other occupations and the people who fill them. People like the garbage man, the truck driver, the farmer, the plumber, and the janitor often go unnoticed and un-admired.

I've been around all classes of society. I've been at dinners attended by dignitaries like a former president. I've been in the company of high ranking state politicians. I've been in the presence of people of high acclaim. On the other hand, I've been in the presence of the garbage man, the janitor, the truck driver, and the farmer.
Personally, if I had my choosing, I choose to spend the rest of my life in the company of the latter group.

You see, sometimes, we let accomplishments go to our head. I have trouble with that sometime. However, I believe God has humbled me lately and helped to realize the true value of all people from the president to the plumber.

Almost nothing in this world bothers me more than a person who thinks more highly of himself than he ought. When I look around in my own life, it's not the governors, or the senators, or the dignitaries that have meant the most in my life. No, it's the common man.

I have always been drawn to people who may possess little earthly possessions but an abundance of heaven's greatest blessings. For these people, are the ones that you can depend on to make this life worth living.These are the people who have compassion and pity for others but pride and respect for their own self.

Sadly though, the janitors and the garbage workers and the plumbers are sometimes just a number to some people. They're just a check on the payroll or a name on an insurance policy.

To me though, the janitor was Mr. Deas in elementary school and Mr. Wesley in middle school. To me, the garbage worker is Joe or Robbie. To me the truck driver is Donnie or Chad or Keith or just Pa. You see, these people are just that-people! They have families that mean the world to them. They've sacrificed. They've failed. They've succeeded. They have been a part of my world and always will be.

There's an old saying that says, "No matter how far you go in life, never forget where you came from or where you are going."

Tonight, I have a wish that people would learn to see everyone the same. I wish people would learn to see the contributions that all people bring to society-those who are rich and those who are poor, those who are educated  in academics and those who are filled with common sense, those who are black and those who are white. Can't we just see people for people? I sure do try!

Tonight, the measure of a man can be found in how hard he tries to treat people as a name and not a number. Who's your number or is it a name?

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

A man ain't made of stone but he better have faith

Those close to me know that I am a fan of Randy Travis. His songs have a lot of meaning and truth in them. Well, meaning and truth are two things that should characterize our lives. Lately, and as I grow older, I have come to realize the meaning of things in life and the truth that just living life reveals. I was listening to a Randy Travis song that I haven't heard in a while. It's called "A Man Ain't Made of Stone" Here are the lyrics:

"A Man Ain't Made Of Stone"

I was supposed to be the rock that you could stand on
Stronger than an old oak tree
But all you ever wanted was the one thing
I never let you see -
The tender side of me
I tried to be a mountain, solid and strong
All it took was your leaving to know I was wrong

A man ain't made of stone
A man ain't made of steel
The way I feel right now
I thought I'd never feel
Sometimes all it takes
Is facing the night alone
And that's when you know
A man ain't made of stone

In this world of mine
There was no room for weakness
I covered every crack in the wall
But there ain't no way that I can keep this secret
Cos when you go like Jerico I fall
You thought I wouldn't shatter
Would I even care?
But there's more to what I'm made of
Than this broken heart can bare

A man ain't made of stone
A man ain't made of steel
The way I feel right now
I thought I'd never feel
Sometimes all it takes
Is facing the night alone
And that's when you know
A man ain't made of stone

Sometimes all it takes
Is facing the night alone
And that's when you know
A man ain't made of stone

That's when you know
A man ain't made of stone

Everyday, I look around me and see a certain category of people. This category is one that is seemingly growing larger every day. It's the category of "steel people." "Steel people" are the people who refuse to see things the way they really are. They're the people that put on a show in front of others to hide their problems. They're the category of people who, instead of confiding in others for strength and help, continue to struggle on their own. This category of people are those who don't realize that tenderness and compassion are actually more accurate measures of one's strength.

I'm from an area in the United States where, sometimes, men strive to be tough and strong with their emotions because they think that is what will make them successful and bring them the best in life. 

However, I also live in a part of this great country where many men were taught to be southern gentlemen. They were taught to show compassion, sympathy, respect and honor. These are all things that I wish to show and possess in my own life. Yet, as a man, I sometimes get caught in the "steel" category. With age though, I have come to realize that a man truly isn't made of "steel." A man is made of faith and character.

Faith and character go hand in hand. They're like salt and pepper, peanut butter and jelly, green eggs and ham...ok not green eggs and ham. Seriously, a man's character says a lot about his faith. When a man has faith, his character shows. A man who has faith trusts in those around him and his maker. A man who has faith will learn to trust in God enough to know that strength doesn't come in being tough and hiding struggles, but in showing compassion, tenderness and love and trusting in God to provide a way.

A man that is not made of steel, is a man of faith- a man who has faith in himself, in others and most of all in his God and through that faith, he becomes a man of tenderness, compassion, honor respect, and humility.

Randy Travis also has a song called "Faith in You" Here are the lyrics:

"Faith In You"

I don't have faith in technology
Even though we created it
All this stuff just breaks down anyway
And you can never get it fixed
But I do have faith in you

I don't have faith in politics
But I do believe in the will of the people
I don't know much about big time religion
But I believe in the cross on the steeple
And I do have faith in you

And after all this time
The lie becomes the truth
We traded in our innocence and sacrificed our youth
But you give your love
The one thing I can't lose
You believe in me
And I still have faith in you

The more I search for my significance
Seems the more I disappear
And I wonder have I made a difference
In any body's life since I've been here
I can hear your laughter
It's the sweetest sound I've ever known
I don't know how love happens
But I know I'm not alone
And I do have faith in you

And after all this time
Sometimes I see the truth
But I'm touched by your innocence
And now I'm not confused
But you give your love
The one thing I can't lose
You believe in me
And I still have faith in you

I do have faith in you...

Do you have faith in others and what does that faith show about your character? Are you made of steel or do you find that the more you search for your significance you disappear? Do you see the truth? Have you made a difference in anyone's life? Are you made of steel?

Tonight the measure of a man cannot be found in a man made of steel because a true man isn't made of steel. He's made of character and faith!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

The Joneses live on the wrong road

Have you ever heard the phrase "keeping up with the Joneses?" Chances are you have and know that it means the same as trying to do what everyone else does when sometimes you either can't afford to do what the Joneses do or you shouldn't do what the Joneses do.

When you drive through certain neighborhoods, many times houses are similar and neighborhoods themselves are characterized by the people who live on a specific road.You see, the trouble with this is, the Joneses don't always live on the right road. Sometimes the Joneses live on the road to financial trouble. Sometimes the Joneses live on the road to friends that forsake you. Sometimes the Joneses live on the road to addictions that drag you down. Sometimes the Joneses live on the road to lost goals and ambitions, lost hopes, and lost dreams. Sometimes the Joneses just live on the road to unhappiness. Sometimes, keeping up with the Joneses is not a bed of roses, or at least that's what Thompson Square says. Take a look at these lyrics:

"Keeping Up With The Joneses"

Just one, I know I can handle that
Pull that bottle from its hiding place yea, just one
And I'll put it back
And it’s one after another till your key turns in the door
And I'll slur baby I'm sorry as you help me off the floor

[Chorus:]
I've been fighting my demons
I've been gaining ground
Crawling, walking then falling back down
It ain't been a bed of roses
Keeping up with the Joneses

That bottle, just won’t let me be
It’s killed everything that’s good in my life and now it’s working on me
Well I've come to believe, that whiskey is a spell
And you were sent straight down from heaven, to pull me out of hell

[Chorus]

Any man in his right mind would have set me free, given up on me
Said we're through
But baby not you
Someday I'll bury my demons deep in the ground
If I have never met you that’s where id be now
It ain't been a bed a roses keeping up with the Joneses [2x]

You see, so many times we search for happiness by trying to keep up the Joneses, by trying to emulate those who, more often than not, are not happy anyway. 

We all have areas in life in which we've failed or had difficulty. Sometimes we try to hide those failures and cope with them with things or wrong actions. The way you cope with things is by pushing through and by finding strength, not in keeping up with the Joneses, but in the helping hand of those who were probably there to help all along.

I really wish that people would realize that happiness in not found in the abundance of things one possesses or in actions that conform to the crowd. People put so much effort into trying to find happiness in the wrong place when it's right under their noses. 

So, I implore you today to forget the things. Forget the struggles. Fight on and look for happiness right where you left-in those who care the most!

And remember...sometimes the Joneses just live on the wrong road!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man! 

Dare to be...

different. That's right I dare you to be different. It seems these days that people have lost their uniqueness. With the invention of social media, a towering wave of uniformity has come crashing down on society. If John does "x" then Joe must do "x" and if John and Joe do "x" then Jerry must do "x" too. You get the point. (Sorry if your name is John, Joe or Jerry! Haha!)

Really though sometimes I wander if people can think for themselves these days. Honestly though, at some point in time we have all been caught up in doing what other people are doing. BUT What's the fun in that? No one wants to see the same thing all of the time. So, today I dare you to be different in these five ways:

1.) Dare to be different in your accomplishments-We all have goals in life. We all have things we want to accomplish. Just think about what the world would be like if we all wished to accomplish the same thing. What if everyone's goal was to be a lawyer? Well, there would be no doctors or teachers or preachers. It takes all kind of people to make this beautiful world go around. Go out and do something different. Create a unique business. Establish a unique charity. Start a unique club. Spice things up a bit!

2.) Dare to be different in your pursuit of happiness- I firmly believe that happiness comes in all shapes and sizes...and all different ways. You see, the world says in order to be happy one must have monetary wealth, fancy things, big bank accounts. I dare you to find happiness in different locations. Find happiness in the company of those around you. Find happiness in your accomplishments. Find happiness in your faith.

3.) Speaking of faith...dare to be different in your faith- People go to many places in search of faith when faith can really only be found in one's own self. Finding your own individual faith is what sets you apart, makes you different from the rest. Find your faith, not in words on a page, but words from the page put into action. Find your faith not in the lyrics to a song, but in the lyrics put into action. Find your faith for yourself!

4.) Dare to be different in your dealings with other people- When I started my job, I always thought that I had to deal with people in the same way as my co-workers. Well, I quickly learned that their way of dealing with others was just not my way. The same is true in everyday society. Different people can effectively deal with others in different ways. Think of your own special talents. Are you a funny person? Make people laugh! Are you a gentle person? Be gentle! Are you someone who gives firm advice? Give firm advice. Be different.

And finally...

5.) Dare to be different in love- That's right! Love is one of the most unique feelings on the planet. It's really not something you can even describe. However, it is something that you can be different in. What do I mean, you ask? Well, everyone might say...give your wife flowers! Yes, flowers are good but...I say give her time! Everyone might say give your girlfriend jewelry. I say give her a golden heart! You see what I mean. Skip the movie date and lay on a blanket under the stars while you tell a crazy story. Skip the dinner date and make dinner together. Skip loving like the world and love like YOU!

Dare to be different!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to be different!

That, my friends is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Time is what?

Time is money- have you ever heard that? Yes, most of us have. I've used that saying many times before myself. It is true that the correct use of our time can translate into some much needed income. Yet, time is something more than just a dollar in a paycheck.

Time is a valuable asset. What we do with our time is even more valuable and ever so life changing. You see I look at time as an investment-an investment in ourselves and others. Therefore, the question arises: How is our investment paying off?

Time is not a good investment until it is invested wisely in the right thing and that right thing is called love. Really, time is love. Josh Turner's song "Time is Love" is a good reminder of that. Here it is:

"Time Is Love"

I know I gotta put in the hours,
Make the money while the sunlight shines
But anything I gotta get done,
It can get done some other time

Time is love, gotta run,
Love to hang longer,
But I got someone who waits,
Waits for me and right now
She's where I need to be,
Time is love, gotta run

I only get so many minutes,
Don't wanna spend 'em all on the clock
In the time that we spent talkin',
How many kisses have I lost?

Time Is love, gotta run,
Love to hang longer,
But I got someone who waits,
Waits for me and right now
She's where I need to be,
Time is love, gotta run.

Gotta fly
Fly
Before one more moment
Gets by...

Time Is love, gotta run,
Love to hang longer,
But I got someone who waits,
Waits for me and right now
She's where I need to be

Time is love, gotta run,
Love to hang longer,
But I got someone who waits,
Waits for me and right now
She's where I need to be,
Time is love, gotta run.

Time is Love, gotta run...

The truth is, we all have someone out there waiting for our time- our time spent loving them. I tend to spend a lot of time with my family. I do that because my family has invested so much time in me and that time is definitely love. I like to return the favor.

Yet still, sometimes it's not just our family that needs that time-the time that is love. Look around you, someone needs your time. You may have a friend that is struggling. You may know someone from work who could benefit from just a few minutes of your time and a positive, encouraging word or two.

As the song says, we have to "fly before one more moment gets by." Moments of our time are valuable we can't let them get by because someone out there just might be waiting for you and that just might be right where you need to be.

When we invest our time in someone, that investment gives great returns. I'm a business major, we talked about ROI sometimes. ROI is the acronym for return on investment. Return on investment is a performance measure used to evaluate the efficiency of an investment. So, is our investment of time performing efficiently? The only way it will is if we invest our time in love! Things are nice. Words are nice. Time, well, it means more than many things. A minute of your time spent with someone in genuine love is worth more than all the money in the world. A minute of your time spent in genuine love with someone is worth more than words spoken without meaning. A minute of your time spent in genuine love with someone is the best investment there is. If you don't believe me, just calculate the ROI! 

Tonight the measure of a man can sometimes be found in where he invests his time and hopefully that investment of time is spent in love.

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

A difference and companions

A companion makes a difference-think about that for a moment. What is a companion? Well, according to one dictionary it means: one of a pair of things intended to complement or match each other. Socks match and they are companions, but we're not talking about socks. No, we're talking about more than that.

Think of your best friend. Would you consider your best friend a companion? I certainly would. Yet, what really makes a companion anyway?

To me a person who is a companion is one who makes a difference in the life of someone else by complementing the other person's strengths and helping them with their weakness. A companion is someone who listens and doesn't pass judgement. A companion is someone who is reliable and faithful. A companion is simply, someone who makes a difference.

Ronnie Milsap's  song "What a Difference You've Made" illustrates well what a companion is and what they do. Just take a look at the words:

What - a - difference you've made in my life
What a difference you've made in my life
You're my sunshine day-ay and ni-ight
Oh what a difference you've ma-a-ade in my li-iiife

What a change you have made in my heart
What a change you have made in my heart
You replaced all the bro-oken par-ar-arts
Oh what a change you have ma-a-ade in my hear-eart

Love to me was just a word in a song
That had been way over-used
But now I've joined in the singin'
'Cause you've shown me love's true meanin'
That's why I want to sprea-ead the new-ews

What a difference you've made in my life
What a difference you've made in my life
You're my sunshine day-ay and ni-ight
Oh what a difference you've ma-a-ade in my li-iiife

What a difference you've made in my life (listen to it)
What a difference you've made in my life
You're my sunshine day-ay and ni-i-i-ight
Oh what a difference you've ma-a-ade, yeah-eah

What a difference you've made in my li-ife
Difference you've made in my li-ife
What a difference you've made in my li-ife
You're my sunshine day-ay and ni-ight
Oh what a difference you've ma-a-ade

Go ahead and sing it

What a difference you've made in my life
What a difference you've made in my life, yeah-heah-eah-eah-heah
You're my sunshine day-ay and ni-ight
Oh yeah, sing it to me
What a difference you've ma-a-ade

What a difference you've made in my life, woh-oh-oh-oh
What a difference you've made in my-y-y-y life
You're my sunshine day-ay and ni-ight
Oh what a difference you've ma-a-ade
What a difference you've ma-a-ade, in my li-i-i-iiife-iiiiiii-hi-ife

A change you have made in my heart...you replaced all the broken parts- now that is a companion-a companion for life. Companionship to me, is not temporary. It's long-lasting. As the song says- it's day and night. Do you have someone who fixes the broken parts to your heart and is your sunshine day and night? I know I do!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to be a true companion-a parts fixer and a ray of sunshine! 

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Dysfunctional by choice

I'm long overdue for a blog, but I have been a little occupied. This past week was spent preparing for the arrival of cousins and spending time with them while they were here with the rest of the family. My time was also spent thinking about what family really is. I think family is closely tied with two words-time and involvement. Different families have different ways that they spend time with each other and are involved in one another's lives. Yet so many families don't spend time together and aren't involved with each other's lives. Sometimes those families are called "dysfunctional" families. The term "dysfunctional family" has become so commonplace these days. In fact, I've used it a time or two myself, until my dad adamantly opposed to my use of the term. At first, I thought: "What's the big deal?" Then, however, he took the time to explain his thoughts. He believes that there is no such thing as a "dysfunctional family." So, there lies the question: Is there such a thing as a "dysfunctional family?" Well, In my humble opinion the answer is: It depends on one thing-choice. Allow me to explain:

The outcome of things in life often depends on choices that we make. Families are no different. I'm so very happy with those in my family and the part they play in my life. I can happily say that we are not dysfunctional at all, because we choose not to me. The only way a dysfunctional family exists is if someone chooses for it to be dysfunctional. We choose for our families to be dysfunctional when we neglect to spend time with one another, when we neglect to be involved with one another, when we argue more than we agree, when fight more that we have fun, when we are jealous more than we are just plain happy for one another. You see, the best families on this planet are those who choose to be the best.

My words may seem harsh, but I stand firmly by them. I honestly believe that every family can be great if they choose to be. A dysfunctional family is only that way by choice. Therefore, they don't exist unless we allow them to.

So, the question remains. What is the secret to a great family? Well, I will revert back to what I said earlier. A great family is one who is involved in the lives of and spends time with one another. Buddy Jewell has a song called, "Times Like These" that illustrates this point well. Here it is:

"Times Like These"

He's three-feet tall and four years old,
An' still believes I can do no wrong.
When I get home at five o'clock,
He's waitin with that Cowboys jersey on.
I laugh 'cause he's just like his Dad.
He'll miss the ball an' he'll get mad:
Thinks when he grows up, he'll catch 'em all.
Then I get down on my knees an' tell him:
"Sometimes, even Daddies drop the ball."

It's times like these that I realise they don't stay little long.
You blink your eyes an' turn around,
Before you know it, they're grown up an' gone.
I've been takin' time for granted,
Now I'm gonna take advantage,
Of every golden opportunity.
Make the most of every moment,
While we still have times like these.

I could go to work this Saturday,
Lord knows, that I could use the overtime.
But I'll be sittin' there, behind home plate,
Cheerin' on that little man of mine.
Yeah, the extra pay would sure be nice,
But it's worth any sacrifice,
To see my little slugger's first at bat.
An' when he looks up in the stands an' sees me:
Man, you can't put a price on that.

It's times like these that I realise they don't stay little long.
You blink your eyes an' turn around,
Before you know it, they're grown up an' gone.
I been takin' time for granted,
Now I'm gonna take advantage,
Of every golden opportunity.
Make the most of every moment,
While we still have times like these.

I've been takin' time for granted,
Now I'm gonna take advantage,
Of every golden opportunity.
Make the most of every moment,
While we still have times like these.


Thank God for times like these. 

I certainly do need to thank God for the "times like these." For the times my family has helped me and cheered me-for the times they have taken time with me and chosen to be involved in my life. That's really it folks-great families are great because they choose to be!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in the choice he makes to be a part of and make a decision to make his family great!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man! (that are a little overdue...lol)

Statement of faith

When you hear someone say something about a statement of faith, what comes to mind? There is probably a different vision in each individual's eyes. For me though a statement of faith is a statement of belief that everything is going to work out; all it takes is faith.

You might recall the Sandy Hook Elementary School tragedy that occurred in Newtown, Connecticut last year where 26 children were killed. Well, George Strait wrote a song in an effort to express his won emotion and bring what little comfort he could to the parents of those children. Here's the song:



"I Believe"


The night's as clear as a big desert sky
But it's hard to see the stars with these tears in my eyes
Yeah, it's hard not to cry
There's twenty-six reasons why

There's broken hearts that'll never be the same
Shattered lives still reeling from the pain
Of plans and dreams now gone
Oh, how do you move on?

But I believe
There's someone who's looking after me
Someone beside me night and day
To light the way
It's hard to conceive
Something you can't see
But I believe
I believe

There's twenty-six angels looking down from above
resting in his mercy, grace and love
Time may never heel
The sadness that we feel

[Repeat Chorus]

The rivers flow now that used to be dry
As people all over the world start to cry
But I believe

This song brings a message that rings true day in and day out for many people. The level of tragedy that those parents who lost their children cannot be compared with our everyday struggles. Our struggles are minute in comparison, but we do have struggles and this song is written for us too.

Sometimes it seems our plans and dreams are gone. We get frustrated and sometimes hopeless at life situations and we nearly give up. That's when we need to look up at the sky and see the "stars" in our life-the shining beacons of hope that give us faith because they believe in us. These "stars" in our life can be friends, family, co-workers, or just anyone. They are the people that believe in us and, as the song says, are "beside us night and day to light the way."

Faith is hard for some people and easier than others. However, the easiest way to have faith in yourself is to look at others who have faith in you. If they believe you can accomplish your goals, then why shouldn't you.

Count the "stars" in your life and believe in yourself...JUST BELIEVE!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to look at the "stars," have faith, and believe!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

I don't wanna think about tomorrow...

Run there, go here, work there, work here, study here, study there, study everywhere, juggle this, juggle that, sometimes we often feel like that...Well that's as close to Dr. Suess as I will ever get, but those words were meant to conjure some thoughts within you. You see, life sometimes seems like one big chaotic mess. We have assignments, tasks, and errands piling up to our eyeballs. We strive to seek a better future for ourselves but often just seem overwhelmed. It's happened to all of us at some point. Really though, we all wish for better tomorrows sometimes, but the key to a better tomorrow, in my opinion, lies in your contentment with today. Let me explain.

I've been stressed to the max before. We all have. It is when we are sometimes at the end of our rope that we realize we just need to learn to  take things one day at a time. Clay Walker's "Live Until I Die" demonstrates that point well. Here's the lyrics:

"Live Until I Die"

Skippin' rocks, skippin' rope
Laughin' at all my best friends jokes
Things I loved when I was a kid

Muddy roads, muddy feet
I didn't live on no blacktop street
Things have changed a lot but I never did

And I don't wanna think about tomorrow
I don't need anything money can buy
I don't have to beg, steal or borrow
I just wanna live until I die

Livin' right, livin' in this
Little old town I grew up in
But I still held on to my dreams

Standin' proud, standin' tall
Standin' smack dab in the middle of it all
I don't worry about things that I can't change

And I don't wanna think about tomorrow
I don't need anything money can buy
I don't have to beg, steal or borrow
I just wanna live until I die

And everything around me
Are things I dearly love
And every night I get on my knees
And thank the Lord above

And I don't have to think about tomorrow
I don't need anything money can buy
I don't have to beg, steal or borrow
I just wanna live until I die
I don't have to beg, steal or borrow
I just wanna live until I die

"I don't need anything money can buy." You see we stress ourselves out many, many times over striving for material things and worldly accomplishments and the praise of those we don't know. When we achieve those worldly accomplishments or that money or the praise from strangers, often times we just want more and we add to our stress level just to get there. When, in fact, happiness and contentment is right where we left it-in the calmness of realizing "everything around me are things I dearly love." We really should be getting "on our knees and thanking the Lord above!" 

I'm not saying that creating a better tomorrow from yourself is something you shouldn't strive for because it is something you should strive for. What I am saying is we don't have to "beg" for others to notice us as we strive for accomplishments and complete our tasks. We don't have to "steal" from the memories we make with those around us to make so called-memories with those that don't matter. We don't have to let others "borrow" our accomplishments for their own personal gain while they never return them so that we can benefit.

I'm not sure my message is coming out clear tonight, but what I'm saying in a nutshell is this: Be content with today and tomorrow will work itself out. Don't stop achieving your goals, but don't let your goals allow you to overwhelm yourself to a point where you forget how blessed you really are!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to be content with where he is in life, to be thankful for his blessings, and to be able to be happy with today and hopeful for tomorrow!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man! 

Pull up a seat! I'll tell you something crazy!

I'm long over due on a post about love, but I'm really feeling the love here lately and I want to share something with you. Just recently a special someone asked me if she was using the phrase "I love you" too much. My reply was: No! Allow me to explain.

About four years ago, as I rode the winding roads of the Smoky Mountains headed for a vacation I remember distinctly being sick and tired of one particular song that just kept coming on the radio. It seemed like every other song just so happened to turn out to be "Love Like Crazy" by Lee Brice. I told myself then that I would never ever like that song again anymore because I heard it so much! Boy was I wrong! You see, I really wasn't paying attention to the lyrics then as much as I do now. For then, I had no idea what crazy love was or how to love like crazy. Pull up a seat because now I do!

First though, let's check those lyrics out:

"Love Like Crazy"


They called them crazy when they started out
Said, "Seventeen's too young to know what loves about"
They've been together fifty-eight years now
That's crazy

He brought home sixty-seven bucks a week
Bought a little 2 bedroom house on Maple Street
Where she blessed him with six more mouths to feed
Now that's crazy

Just ask him how he did it
He'll say, "Pull up a seat
It'll only take a minute
To tell you everything"

Be a best friend, tell the truth
And overuse "I love you"
Go to work, do your best
Don't outsmart your common sense
Never let your prayin' knees get lazy
And love like crazy

They called him crazy when he quit his job
Said them home computers, boy, they'll never take off
Well, he sold his one man shop to Microsoft
And they paid like crazy

Just ask him how he made it
He'll tell you faith and sweat
And the heart of a faithful woman
Who never let him forget

Be a best friend, tell the truth
And overuse "I love you"
Go to work, do your best
Don't outsmart your common sense
Never let your prayin' knees get lazy
And love like crazy

Always treat your woman like a lady
Never get to old to call her baby
Never let your prayin' knees get lazy
And love like crazy

They called him crazy when they started out
They've been together fifty-eight years now
Ain't that crazy?

Be a best friend:

When you were a kid you know you answered the question: Who's your best friend? A lot of times you answered quickly and moved on. Over the years, perhaps your best friend has changed. But, in this song I think we're talking about a true best friend- a friend for life. This is a friend who knows your every flaw and still loves you in spite of that. This a friend that knows how to cheer you up when you're down. It's a friend who knows how to make you laugh. This is a friend who cries when you cry and hurts when you hurt. It's a friend who enjoys spending time with you no matter the occasion or the time. This is a friend who rejoices in your accomplishments and encourages you in the midst of life's setbacks and trials. It's a friend who truly is the best! It's a friend that love! A best friend love's like crazy!

Tell the truth:

Truth is so vital in love. It's important to know everything about the person- good and bad. A relationship-love-is about being honest and letting the other person know how to help-how to make the relationship stronger. We all struggle or have disagreements, but by telling the truth, we're able to work things out. A truthful person loves like crazy!

Go to work:

What does working and loving like crazy have to do with one another you might ask? Well, how many husbands and wives do you know that have worked hard to provide for their families all because of love. It seems these days that they are few and far between, but let me remind you they do exist. It takes work in a relationship. It takes work to love like crazy- physically and emotionally. A person that truly goes to work loves like crazy!

Do your best:

I think people inherently always want to do their best, but sometimes they need a little push-from themselves. You see, too many times, we give up and quit trying. However when you have a love like I do. When you have a love that is worthy of loving like crazy, you strive to do your best. I know I do! People who do their best love like crazy!

Don't outsmart your common sense:

I'm not known for my common sense. I never have been. I guess that's why Jeopardy is one of my favorite television shows. However, I'm not the only one that outsmarts my common sense from time to time. As humans, we tend to over-complicate things sometimes, when really we just need to go with our gut! If you feel it's right then do it! People who don't outsmart their common sense love like crazy!

Never get too old to call her baby:

I hear people all the time say something negative when someone uses a pet name for their significant other. Personally I think it's really nice and says a lot about how the couple feels about one another. Sweetheart, sweetie, honey, sugar, baby-whatever you call her- don't ever stop. Keep the flame burning! A person who never gets too old to call her baby loves like crazy!

Always treat your woman like a lady:

Respect goes a long way in this world, especially in love. When a person knows you respect them, love can only grow stronger! Some people try to love a woman with no respect for her dignity. It's not possible to truly love a lady without showing her respect and treating her just for what she is- a lady. Opening doors, making decisions alongside of her, and always keeping her wishes foremost in your actions, in my opinion are the keys to treating your woman like a lady. People who treat their woman like a lady love like crazy!

Never let your praying knees get lazy:

Prayer is essential in love. We should always pray for our loved ones and not just a standard run-of-the-mill prayer either. We must pray a powerful, purposeful, passionate prayer from the most humble position-on our knees. If you've never prayed for someone down on your knees, you should give it a try. I can assure you you will then know the true power of prayer. A person who never lets their praying knees get lazy loves like crazy!

Overuse I love you:

You thought I had forgotten this one didn't you? I purposely saved the best for last. You see, I am firmly convicted that we can never use the phrase "I love you" too much. "I love you" speaks for itself and it speaks volumes. The person on the other end of the "I love you" knows if it's genuine or not and a genuine "I love you" never gets old. I should know. I hear genuine "I love yous" everyday! A person who overuses "I love you" loves like crazy!

Do you love like crazy! Will you be together 58 years from now! Will you be able to tell us about something crazy?

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to love like crazy. Give it a try-it's the best form of crazy you'll ever know!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Unlikely...

Unlikely-what does that word mean to you? This very word can be used in so many ways. Yet today, I was reminded of one of my favorite uses for the word-unlikely friendship. I've always been a person who has often tried to be very accepting of all people. I like to think that I make friends easily because I don't put friends in a "box." Society tells us to make friends who are exactly like us. I disagree and so does Erling Kindem. Erling Kindem is a 89 year old WWII veteran who once was a bomber but now is an unlikely friend to a 3 year old boy. T o read about the story, check out this link:

http://www.11alive.com/story/life/2014/07/08/farmington-next-door-neighbor-friendship-emmett-erling/12390649/

You see, unlikely friendships can often be the most satisfying ones. In my own life, I've formed many unlikely friendships. I've had and still have friends who are senior citizens. I have friends who are black. I've got friends that are white. I've got friends who are short and I have friends who are tall. I have friends who are young and friends that are old. I enjoy meeting people who are different from me. I've always been that way. I genuinely have an interest in people. More specifically, I have a genuine interest in souls.

You see, unlikely friendships are made because people allow them too.  You must genuinely have an interest in people and their well being to form unlikely friendships. Unlikely friendships take work just like any other friendship, but what sets them apart is the bonds that are form and the force for good they become. Just take Erling and his friend for example. Thousands of people around the world recognize the unlikely friendship that was made in this particular situation. Due to that realization, thousands of people have also learned the impact that an unlikely friendship can have on someone's life. Making an impact on the lives of others is often overlooked. People think that they can't make an impact or that they're not capable of doing so. I think differently. Just try being an unlikely friend with someone-the impact will find you both.

Tonight, the measure of a man can be found in his ability to be an Erling-in his ability to be an unlikely friend.

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Bet your hard earned dollar

Have you ever known someone that you just wanted to grab by arms and yell in their face, "Believe in yourself!" I've known many. I've always been a very self-confident person. I can thank my grandmother a lot for that. She stands out as the number one person in this world that has always believed in me. For that, I'm most thankful. Most of all though, she taught me to believe in myself. You see, believing in yourself is half the battle.

Travis Tritt's song, "I'm Gonna be Somebody" demonstrates this point well. Here it is:



"I'm Gonna Be Somebody"


Bobby played his guitar on the harder side of town
Where it's hard for a poor boy to find the money
He had dedication, he had the heart and soul
Somehow knew he was born to play

People say get a real job support your family
'Cause there's no future on the road your takin'
But he never said a word, the dreamer just kept on
Late at night you could hear him say, he'd say

I'm gonna be somebody
One of these days I'm gonna break these chains
I'm gonna be somebody someday
You can bet your hard-earned dollar I will

The road was a struggle, took him ten years to the top
And now he's number one on the stage and the radio
Still he can't believe how people come from miles around
When it seems like only yesterday when he would say

I'm gonna be somebody
One of these days I'm gonna break these chains
I'm gonna be somebody someday
You can bet your hard-earned dollar I will, yeah, yeah, yeah

Bobby played his hometown, one full moon August night
When He heard a voice in the front row singing
It was a sandy-haired river boy with same ol' hungry eyes
He looked up at Bobby and said

Mmm, I'm gonna be somebody
One of these days I'm gonna break these chains
And I'm gonna be somebody someday
You can bet your hard-earned dollar I will
You know I will, yeah, yeah

I'm gonna be somebody
One of these days I'm gonna break these chains
I'm gonna be somebody someday
You can bet your hard-earned dollar I will, oh yeah
You can bet your hard-earned dollar I will

You've got to tell yourself that you are going to be somebody. You will break the chains, despite the critics.

Friends, that is easier said than done. All too often in this world, people let others hold them back. You don't believe me? Just check Facebook and see how much people act alike. People are scared to be their own person and fulfill their own potential.

Inside each and every one of is lies a potential to be great at something. Yet, too many times we lack "dedication" and the "heart and soul." 

Well, I'm telling you now, "YOU'RE GONNA BE SOMEBODY!!! YOU WILL BREAK THE CHAINS!" Now, go believe in yourself!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to "be somebody." That ability lies in believing in one's self. What do you believe?

That, my friends is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

What do you think about in the morning?

Have you made the day count? Lately, I've been thinking of how I can make the most impact on lives each day. It really is a goal of mine to leave a positive impact on the people I encounter every day, especially my loved ones. Garth Brooks' song "If Tomorrow Never Comes" demonstrates how important it is to make each day count because tomorrow may not come for you or me. Here's the lyrics:

"If Tomorrow Never Comes"


Sometimes late at night
I lie awake and watch her sleeping
She's lost in peaceful dreams
So I turn out the lights and lay there in the dark
And the thought crosses my mind
If I never wake up in the morning
Would she ever doubt the way I feel
About her in my heart

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

'Cause I've lost loved ones in my life
Who never knew how much I loved them
Now I live with the regret
That my true feelings for them never were revealed
So I made a promise to myself
To say each day how much she means to me
And avoid that circumstance
Where there's no second chance to tell her how I feel

If tomorrow never comes
Will she know how much I loved her
Did I try in every way to show her every day
That she's my only one
And if my time on earth were through
And she must face the world without me
Is the love I gave her in the past
Gonna be enough to last
If tomorrow never comes

So tell that someone that you love
Just what you're thinking of
If tomorrow never comes

If we want to live with no regrets, if we want to let people know how we feel, then we must set out to do that everyday. Making an impact on lives does not come without effort. Making an impact begins by deciding to make an impact when you wake up in the morning. So, let me ask you: What do you think about each morning? Do you awaken each day in a hurried and agitated rush? Do you wake up each day miserable about the day ahead of you? or...Do you wake up each day ready to conquer the day? Do you wake up each morning thinking of how you can do good for others? Do you wake up each day thinking of how you can make an impact? What if we all woke up each morning ready to impact our world for good? Wouldn't the world be a better place? If you answered "yes" to the last two questions, then realize this: it all starts with you. You see, a person who makes an impact on the lives of others often influences others to do the same.

We are not promised tomorrow. So, will people know how we feel? Did we try in every way to show them every day how much they mean to us? Is our love really going to be enough to last if tomorrow never comes?

That's just something to think about!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to make his "todays" count because we aren't guaranteed our "tomorrows."

That, my friends is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

One more day...and it keeps on growin'...

"If I had one more day..." Have you ever said that to yourself? I have many times. Usually I was just simply referring to needing one more day to get some work finished or one more day of vacation. Now though, these words mean so much more.

Patience has never been a virtue that I showcase well. In fact, my patience is really, really thin. My patience is like the "thin mint" version of patience. I don't have patience on the road. I don't have patience at the doctor's office. I don't have patience when I wait for my wifi to come back on. Folks, patience just isn't my forte. I want everything now and I want it in the same day. That requires patience.

All of my life, the people I care most about have always been easily accessible to me. They lived down the road or the next county over, or a day's road trip away-until now.

You see, I value quality time with the people I care about. It's hard to spend quality time with people who are far away. When I do spend that quality time with those who are far away, I find myself wishing for just one more day. The group Diamond Rio has a song called "One More Day" and here's the lyrics:



"One More Day"


Last night I had a crazy dream
A wish was granted just for me
It could be for anything
I didn't ask for money
Or a mansion in Malibu
I simply wished, for one more day with you

One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

First thing I'd do, is pray for time to crawl
Then I'd unplug the telephone
And keep the TV off
I'd hold you every second
Say a million I love you's
That's what I'd do, with one more day with you

One more day
One more time
One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied
But then again
I know what it would do
Leave me wishing still, for one more day with you

Leave me wishing still, for one more day
Leave me wishing still, for one more day

We all want one more sunset. We all want one more "I love you." Those are things that are hard when you're far away. This is where love finds it's hardest test-the test of distance. We wish for one more day and it often seems like that day will never come. 

Kyle Park has a song called "Long Distance Relationship." It describes my feelings on wanting one more day with those who are far away. Here it is:

A long distance phone call
At 2 in the mornin', but I don't mind at all
'cause I stay up most nights, just thinkin' of you
And how when I get home, I'm gonna love you

I know it's hard when I'm away,
But trust me when I say
That we'll be okay,
But we've got to stay strong

It's gonna be a long distance relationship
As long as I keep livin' like this
You're gonna be alone
More than I get to be home

But somehow this makes the heart grow fonder
Our love just keeps getting stronger
With every kiss of this long distance relationship
That we've started
So wild and reckless-hearted

We both agree that it's worth tryin'
And nothin' is worse than hearin' you cryin'
Everything I wanna say, can't always be face to face
But know I love you just as much on the telephone
And oh...
It's gonna be a long distance relationship
As long as I keep livin' like this
You're gonna be alone
More than I get to be home

But somehow this makes the heart grow fonder
Our love just keeps getting stronger
With every kiss of this long distance relationship
That we've got goin'
The only thing worth knowin'
Is that our love is gonna keep growin' on an on

It's gonna be a long distance relationship
As long as I keep livin' like this
You're gonna be alone
More than I get to be home

But somehow this makes the heart grow fonder
Our love just keeps getting stronger
With every kiss of this long distance relationship

Love isn't always easy. It takes work. I do agree though that absence certainly makes the heart grow fonder. And love is worth a try. I'm trying really hard! What about you? Is your love growing with the love you have going?

Tonight the measure of a man or woman can sometimes be found in his or her ability to try, have patience, and work for one more day all the while building a love that "just keeps getting stronger."

That, my friends is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man.

Now looking back I understand...

We have a saying in the south. When times are good in people's lives, when fortunes are great, and blessings are abundant we often say, "We're walking in high cotton." or "He's walking in high cotton." or "She's walking in high cotton." We notice our cotton height in the south. I can't tell you how many times I've heard my grandfather remark, "Look how high the cotton is!" He should know; he's picked his fair share.

Well why do we say that, "We're walking in high cotton?" Well, let's think about it in agricultural terms for a minute. Cotton, though it only requires moderate rainfall to yield a decent crop, can only be helped by an adequate amount of rainfall. I've seen many summers in my short life span where cotton struggled to survive in times of drought. I've also seen times when cotton has thrived with adequate rainfall. I've seen the rain produce high cotton and there is no greater feeling I would imagine than a farmer to have a field full of high, ever-abundant cotton. 

Well, this is much like life too. We have times in our lives when things don't go so great. We have times in our lives when there are periods of drought. The "cotton" isn't so high then. Yet, through prayerful persistence and hard work, I've seen many a physical cotton crop and the metaphorical "cotton crops" of life grow into times of "high cotton." Many times though, we really don't understand, we don't even notice the "cotton" growing. We only notice the struggles and hard work we endure. We only notice the "rain." 

Well the rain does bring high cotton doesn't it? 

The group Alabama has a song called "High Cotton." It's one of my favorites. Here's the lyrics:


"High Cotton"


We didn't know that times were lean
Round our house the grass was green
It didn't seem like things were all that bad
I bet we walked a thousand miles
Chopin' cotton and pushin' plows
And learnin' how to give it all we had.

As life went on and years went by
I saw the light in daddy's eyes
And felt - the love in mama's hands
They kept us warm and kept us fed
Taught us how to look ahead
Now lookin' back, I understand.

[Chorus:]
We Were Walkin' in High Cotton
Old times there are not forgotten
Those fertile fields are never far away
We Were Walkin' in High Cotton
Old times there are not forgotten
Leavin' home was the hardest thing we ever faced.

When Sunday mornings rolled around
We dressed up in hand-me downs
Just in time, to gather with the church
Sometimes I think how long it's been
And how it impressed me then
It was the only day my daddy wouldn't work.

[Chorus 2x]

We were walkin' in high cotton.

I love how this song starts off with reflecting on our mindsets as children. When we're a child, we don't notice some of the struggles our parents faced physically and financially. Sometimes, as children, we don't even notice our own struggles. Yet also as children, we notice, as we grow that work is required. We learn to "give it all we have." As we grow older, we sometimes wonder why we give it all we've got when things never seem to change. However, as the song so clearly demonstrates, when we look back we understand. We were and are walking in "high cotton!" No, we may not have a mansion. No we may not have an abundance of friends. We may have to work hard every day. We may have to "chop cotton" and "push plows." BUT I will guarantee you that if you look back on your life and look at where it has led you, chances are you've walked in "high cotton" most of the way. We go through the hard work, the droughts, and the rains of life for a reason-they all help us see how high the cotton really is.

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in his ability to look back and understand how long he has walked in "high cotton." How high is your "cotton field?"

That, my friends is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

Daddy never was...

Daddy never was...

Today, as I checked Facebook I saw all of the posts for Father's Day. I'll have to say that it was great to see fathers get some recognition. Then, as the day progressed, I thought more and more about what it means to be a father. I haven't really considered fatherhood much until this point in my life. I was reminded today, through a phone call, that fatherhood is quite possible for me one day. Well, as that reminder sank in, I decided to truly begin my quest to prepare for the job.

I believe that a person's preparation for fatherhood is best begun by looking at the men in our own lives-men that are example fathers. You can look at any man you look up to and learn a lesson. Many men are different. Some are not worthy of emulating. Yet some are very worthy of emulating. The best way to prepare for fatherhood, in my opinion, is to examine the characteristics of men who are good fathers and emulate those characteristics.

One characteristic that I truly admire about my father is his love of simplicity and his appreciation for the things that matter most. You see, my dad has discovered through his own experiences, that money, fame and fortune isn't everything. Everyday I see fathers push their kids toward financial success at the cost of family relationships. I see fathers push their kids to athletic fame at the cost of family relationships. In the end none of that matters and the one true thing that really matters most is love and no amount of money can buy that.

I found a song recently that is fast becoming one of my favorite. The song is "Daddy Never Was the Cadillac Kind by Confederate Railroad. Here's the lyrics:

Daddy Never Was the Cadillac Kind

We were poor when I was a youngun
I don't remember ever going hungry
Daddy made sure we didn't do without
I went to school with some of these fellas
They had money and I was jealous
I didn't know then what I know now
Daddy'd say you can't judge a book by looking at its cover
It's what's inside that really matters

CHORUS
Daddy never was the Cadillac kind
He said some things just glitter and shine
He taught us that love was the one thing money couldn't buy
Daddy never was the Cadillac kind

I left home right out of high school
Bought me a big car thought I was real cool
Cruisin' around the old neighborhood
I'd see Dad after church on Sunday
I'd say you'll have to go riding with me someday
He just said no, I never understood
He asked me how I bought it, I told him on credit
Daddy just smiled, I'll never forget it

REPEAT CHORUS

It took a while but now I'm grown
I've settled down with kids of my own
The more I give them
The more they want

Daddy left us last November
I don't remember him ever looking better
All laid out in his Sunday best
I'm sure instead of all the attention
All he'd of wanted was a few words mentioned
A simple man simply laid to rest
As they drove him away in that big Cadillac
With a tear in my eye I had to laugh

REPEAT CHORUS

It's what's inside that really matters- isn't that true? It isn't fame, or fortune, cars, or houses, Cadillacs, or Fords. No, it's things that really matter-respect, honor, humility, compassion, and love. One thing about my dad is he has never been concerned with material things. As a young person, sometimes I put more weight in the materialistic world- but my dad has never been the Cadillac kind. I want to be like that. He often stresses to me that it doesn't matter what the world thinks about your possessions. It matters what the world thinks of your reputation. When I'm through with this life I want to leave behind a reputation of someone who never really was the Cadillac kind.

Another characteristic I love about my own dad is the fact that he stresses actions rather than words. My dad has never been one to show emotion or share his feelings in words with me. He doesn't have to. He shows how he feels and how he thinks through his actions. Bucky Covington has a song called "A Father's Love." It reminds me of my own father. Here's the lyrics:

"A Father's Love (The Only Way He Knew How)"


For the longest time, I guess I thought
He didn't give a damn
Hard to read, hard to please
Yeah, that was my old man
On the day I left for college
It was nothing new
We never had that heart-to-heart
He had too much to do

[Chorus:]
He checked the air in my tires
The belts and all the spark plug wires
Said "When the hell's the last time
"You had this oil changed"
And as I pulled out the drive
He said "Be sure and call your mom sometime"
And I didn't hear it then
But I hear it now
He was saying "I love you"
(He was saying "I love you")
The only way he knew how

120,000 miles
Six years down the road
A brand new life and a brand new wife
We'd just bought our first home
When he finally came to visit
I thought he'd be so proud
He never said he liked the place
He just got his tool belt out

And put new locks on the doors
Went back and forth to the hardware store
Said "Come and hold this flashlight"
As he crawled beneath the sink
And "These old wires ain't up to code"
And "That circuit box is gonna overload"
And I didn't hear it then
But I hear it now
He was saying "I love you"
The only way he knew how

Last Sunday, we all gathered
For his 65th birthday
And I knew he'd stiffen up
But I hugged him anyway
When it was finally time to say goodbye
I knew what was next
Just like he always does
Right before we left

[Repeat Chorus]

He knew how

When I use the three letter word "dad" usually I'm speaking of my step-father. He and I have this kind of relationship. Of course he says he loves me sometimes, but he shows it all the time through his actions. You see, I've always been a firm believer in the old saying "Actions speak louder than words." My dad's actions certainly have. He's checked the air in my tires. He's moved furniture off to college. He's helped me swap seats out in my truck so I'd be more comfortable driving it. He's fixed the lawnmower after I carelessly broke it and never said anything. And he has always stressed that I should respect my mother and always see that she is taken care of. All of that, to me, is his way of showing love through action. When we say the words "I love you," in that sentence the word "love" is an action verb. It requires action. Too many times, people treat love as a noun-just a thing that requires no thought, attention, or action. My dad doesn't. He shows what love is meant to look like. He takes action. Too many times, men say "I love you." to their children but never actually show love. I'm firm believer that love must be shown in order to be appreciated. I appreciate my dad's love because he shows it!

Tonight, the measure of man, the measure of a father can sometimes be found in one's ability to be a father who never judges a book by its cover, to be father who treats love as an action verb. and to be a father who values what's inside rather than things that glitter and shine because a real father doesn't want to be 

...the Cadillac kind. 

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!

 

Hey aren't we all?

It's amazing to me how things happen sometimes. Today I had the privilege of meeting a young man who is mentally challenged. He is a very special guy with a very special new family. This young man has been without parents for a while until now. I'm happy to say that he now has what everyone needs most in their lives: love, respect, admiration and care from his family. Really, you could just sum it all up and say that he's being treated the way everyone wants to be treated.

People with disabilities hold a very special place in my heart and I consider it a privilege to be around them. You see, I have never found greater determination and drive than that which is possessed by most disabled people. It's a determination and drive that many people who are not disabled will never have. Further than that though, people with disabilities, more often than not, treat others with respect.

Unfortunately, I've been around people who don't value disabled people like I do. They call them names and treat them as second class citizens. When I see this happen, usually I become a little defensive and ready to stand up for the disabled person. I've realized now though, that pointing out the fact that everyone wants to be treated with respect, even the person doing the name calling, is usually the best way to foster an appreciation and admiration for the disabled.

Today, I was reminded of a song. Mark Willis' "Don't Laugh at Me" is a song that really related to what I'm talking about. Here's the lyrics:





"Don't Laugh At Me"


I'm a little boy with glasses
The one they call the geek
A little girl who never smiles
'Cause I've got braces on my teeth
And I know how it feels
To cry myself to sleep.

I'm that kid on every playground
Who's always chosen last
A single teenage mother
Tryin' to overcome my past
You don't have to be my friend
Is it too much to ask?

[Chorus:]
Don't laugh at me, don't call me names
Don't get your pleasure from my pain
In God's eyes we're all the same
Someday we'll all have perfect wings
Don't laugh at me.

I'm the cripple on the corner
You pass me on the street
I wouldn't be out here beggin'
If I had enough to eat
And don't think that I don't notice
That our eyes never meet.

I lost my wife and little boy
Someone crossed that yellow line
The day we laid 'em in the ground
Is the day I lost my mind
Right now I'm down to holdin'
This little cardboard sign.

[Chorus:]
Don't laugh at me, don't call me names
Don't get your pleasure from my pain
In God's eyes we're all the same
Someday we'll all have perfect wings
Don't laugh at me.

I'm fat, I'm thin, I'm short, I'm tall
I'm deaf, I'm blind, hey aren't we all?

[Chorus:]
Don't laugh at me, don't call me names
Don't get your pleasure from my pain
In God's eyes we're all the same
Someday we'll all have perfect wings
Don't laugh at me.

I think when people listen to this song they don't really realize what it's meant to be. I think people listen to this and feel sorry for the people in the song. That, to me, is not what the song was meant for. Instead, the song was meant to send a message to the listener. "In God's eyes we're all the same." Isn't that true. The message that this song is bringing is about respect. People who are different do not want to be treated differently. They want to be treated with respect-the same respect that you give everyone else. These people have feelings too. I'm forever grateful for those special people like my friend I met today. For it is through them that I realize what life is really about. Life is about love, admiration, care and respect. Thanks for reminding me today, my friend!

Tonight, the measure of a man can sometimes be found in the way in which we treat others who may be "fat" or "thin" or "short" or "tall" or "deaf" or "blind" For it is through these people that sometimes our lives will be forever changed!

That, my friends, is just a few thoughts from a small town southern man!